How To Make A Long Distance Relationship Last

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By Tracy Rose

Let’s say you are lucky enough to meet the man of your dreams through an online dating service. He’s attractive, career-orientated, wants to settle down and start a family, he’s compassionate, he has a great sense of humor, doesn’t live with his parents anymore and shows interest in you too. The only problem is that he lives 3,000 miles away.

Can a relationship survive that kind of distance? Can you make a long-distance relationship last and turn into something more?

Here are some tips on how to make the best of a long-distance relationship:

— Set rules and limits from the beginning. Will you chat with or see other people or be exclusively dating one another? Nothing ruins a long-distance relationship like having your partner learn there is someone else with you back home. Decide from the beginning what constitutes cheating and define your relationship from the start to avoid problems later on.

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— Speak over the phone and in person as often as you can. Hearing his voice is much more effective than reading a typed email. Hearing his tone of voice and inflections are helpful in reading the true meaning of what is said and any feelings that are being expressed.

— Remember that anything you type and send can be held against you in a fight. Emails can be saved and stored for future use. Go over your emails carefully before you hit the send button to make sure you mean everything you are typing.

— Send romantic gifts to remind your long-distance love that you still care. Send personal mementos, something that smells like you, a gift he’s been hinting that he wants, etc.

— Schedule visits to meet and spend time together face-to-face. Even if only on occasion, this gives you both something to look forward to and gives you an opportunity to create memories together.

— Decide what your long-term goal for the relationship is. Will one of you have the opportunity to move in the near future?

— Resist the urge to fantasize about him and set up unrealistic expectations. Live in the moment and enjoy your long distance relationship for what it is.

— Connect with his friends that live near him. Friends can offer a lot of information about a person if you listen closely.

Turning an online date into a long-distance relationship is tempting, but can also be troublesome. Set up guidelines early in the long-distance relationship to avoid getting hurt.

About the Author: Tracy Rose is a Freelance Writer.

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